February 10, 2009

Stumbling Along....

Convincing Clark is not going as swimmingly easy as I thought it would be. He is more against another cycle then I originally thought. I think I am going to just leave it alone for right now and let him work through what he needs to. I have found the less I bother him about something, the more receptive he is down the road. Just a thought.

I have been stressed out about the tax thing I mentioned a few posts ago, and it looks as though we may have to hire a lawyer. I cannot begin to tell you just how OVER DSS I am. The system is defunct and so jacked up that it will take YEARS to fix it. I cannot for the life of me understand how they claim to be making things better for the children of this country when I may lose my house, and life as we know it because of their stupidity. They use lies to get foster parents to adopt. Just you try to get the services you need after finalization of a special needs adoption.... ain't happening. I am sick to death of these people hurting me and my family, and then having to have no culpability for what they have done.

I am going to say that The Department of Human Services in Hampton, Virginia (DSS) is filled with some of the worst social workers I have had the displeasure of meeting, and if I had to do it all over again, I wouldn't have set foot one in that sorry ass building. The director has not returned my phone calls in over a week, and I am sure that I won't hear from her. She doesn't like me because I stuck up for Kent and wouldn't let them short change him. Richmond, Virgina (Head Department) DSS had no clue this was going on. I have called the City Attorney trying to get things fixed, left messages with the mayors office, and all over that city. Do you think anyone has returned my calls?? Hell no, you know why, because they know they are wrong, and I don't live in their sorry ass city anymore, so they THINK they can ignore me. The caseworkers have all been instructed to tell all Foster/Adoptive parents who call asking about the 1099's they were issued:

"Talk to your tax preparer, we can't help you." No shit, you don't want to either.

I am my tax preparer, and I have no freaking clue.

I called the IRS direct and spent 3 hours on the phone with them, they have no idea what in the hell is going on. This should be tax exempt, is what I heard over and over again.

I want you all to understand that I am not talking about a few hundred dollars here, I am talking thousands. Thousands I don't have. Thousands I will never have. Thousands that will break us.

I got the tax notice from them the day after transferring Larry, Moe, and Curly. I wonder how things may have turned out had I not been so damn upset over that stupid letter.

I have been having terrible nightmares over the last 2 weeks. They (Hampton Caseworkers) come and take our house, our cars, our dogs, and then show up for the kids telling me that no mother in her right mind would have let things get this bad. I had nothing to do with it, but you and I both know that doesn't mean anything to that arm of the government. This is worrying the hell out of me, and yet my pleas for answers to them go unanswered. This my friends is why I tell people to stay away from Foster Parenting, it isn't worth the toll on your heart and mind.

So dear readers, I reach out to you in my fragile state (sick as a dog on top of all of this) and ask if any of you know or are a Tax Attorney that can give me some advice on how to handle this, I would be more grateful then I would ever be able to express.


Kristin said...

Oh honey, I am so sorry you are going through this. When my dad was stationed in Florida, we started an adoption that went disastrously wrong because of the lies DSS told us.

Good luck with the taxes and good luck getting Clark to change his mind.


Aunt Becky said...

I'm not an attorney, my friend, but I am an ass-kicker. Were I in better shape, I'd come down and open up a can of Whoop Ass.

Lost in Space said...

Sorry you are dealing with so much all at once, Rebel. I am clueless when it comes to all this so all I can offer are hugs.

Susan said...

Well, shit. That's my first thought. My second is that you're headed in the right direction in that you're seeking a tax attorney. Yes, it's going to cost money but I sense you're seeking justice as well as financial relief. And this is what tax attorneys provide in place of their personalities. A good place to start is to check out Martindale-Hubbell for tax attorneys, then look at their reviews. Many attorneys have "rankings" on these reviews but word of mouth is golden. I'll keep working on it but do some research. We're going to fix this.

My Reality said...

No tax attorney here. I hope you can get it sorted out with minimal headache to you.