tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37443842.post2333954404994135486..comments2023-10-09T04:11:02.662-05:00Comments on Diary of an Infertile Mad Woman: Clark is cheating on me....*Rebel With.A.Causehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17454291899280028369noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37443842.post-58862567234910196842008-06-18T21:24:00.000-05:002008-06-18T21:24:00.000-05:00Spouses first then kids...thats my final vote. Wh...Spouses first then kids...thats my final vote. When the couple is happy the keeps reap all those benefits. Needs before wants though, so there has to be a happy balance.The Rebound Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05898239458640298633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37443842.post-14174254845091570282008-06-11T16:16:00.000-05:002008-06-11T16:16:00.000-05:00OMGOMG< I could have written this post. My husband always said that if we had a boy he would be jealous, I never understood it.. but now that we have our girls I understand what he meant... I felt so ashamed to feel this way. I am glad that I am not alone. I love that he loves her, but it is hard to be moved down on his priority list His is: Lyla, drums, his mom and ICibelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02361386515177047271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37443842.post-22279886533387809762008-06-11T15:53:00.000-05:002008-06-11T15:53:00.000-05:00You see, this is what scares me. Being infertile ...You see, this is what scares me. Being infertile and going through IVF for years and years drains my self-confidence about even my ability to care for myself. I already feel like an empty shell--how the hell am I going to care for a baby if I ever even get what I'm killing myself for?<BR/><BR/>So yes, I worry about never having a baby. But I worry just as much about whether I'll survive havingthe Babychaser:https://www.blogger.com/profile/12205229469287159556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37443842.post-17167365601368410092008-06-11T00:55:00.000-05:002008-06-11T00:55:00.000-05:00First of all, it's totally normal. I was blessed t...First of all, it's totally normal. I was blessed to have my parents close, they helped take up the slack, but even then there are days where it is like "let me out, let me run, let me be all by myself for five minutes." <BR/><BR/>Anyway, the other thing that I would say is that while his love for turtle is admirable, if your marriage isn't right he can't really love her like she needs to be lovedmomofonefornowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09024643244161544858noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37443842.post-16591399913777643322008-06-10T21:39:00.000-05:002008-06-10T21:39:00.000-05:00I don't blame you for feeling hurt about what your...I don't blame you for feeling hurt about what your hubby said. I hope he doesn't mean it. I mean, I hope he loves Turtle to death, but realizes that the relationship between the two of you should come first. Because the best thing he could do for Turtle's safety and wellbeing is to ensure she has a stable household with a happy daddy AND mommy. :)DChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12498195466936860073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37443842.post-91498053583774366002008-06-10T12:03:00.000-05:002008-06-10T12:03:00.000-05:00I hope that your husband gets a clue and realizes ...I hope that your husband gets a clue and realizes how much work a baby truly is, and stops asking what you've been doing as if you've been doing nothing!<BR/><BR/>I hope, as well, that he can give you a day - a weekend day - where you can go out and do your own thing, and he can stay home with her for the day. <BR/><BR/>As the other ladies said, in the meantime, don't be too hard on yourself. Marahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05874947894564584023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37443842.post-16402603733112701032008-06-09T20:40:00.000-05:002008-06-09T20:40:00.000-05:00OK girl, I almost packed my bags and drove over th...OK girl, I almost packed my bags and drove over there, I thought he was really cheading you. LOL, ok you just shocked me.<BR/>Now I can continue to read the rest.<BR/><BR/>Love you<BR/>TinaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37443842.post-88885024148670740202008-06-09T08:12:00.000-05:002008-06-09T08:12:00.000-05:00Hang tough! Can you take a Saturday for yourself?...Hang tough! Can you take a Saturday for yourself? Wake up, get dressed and leave... and let Clarke handle the day on his own? and DEMAND dinner when you come back? Sometimes it takes forcing them to walk a day in your shoes before the finally "get" it.<BR/><BR/>Good luck, take some time for yourself!Andyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00918826364837237450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37443842.post-86068516686358965752008-06-08T11:12:00.000-05:002008-06-08T11:12:00.000-05:00As a wise man once said, "this too shall come to p...As a wise man once said, "this too shall come to pass". <BR/><BR/>Your hormones are raging, and your life has changed completely (DUH right? I Know), but it is hard for you to believe that you are not the only one to ever feel this way. You should definitely sit down with Clark and have this exact discussion with him. Men are not as "in tune" with us as we would like them to be and he probablyDebzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06782022114303206069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37443842.post-86342840207133449562008-06-07T21:15:00.000-05:002008-06-07T21:15:00.000-05:00Your feelings are normal! There are some days when...Your feelings are normal! There are some days when being a SAHM is harder than going to work full time. No one really gets that until they do it for months on end. And it is even harder with a fussy baby that never wants to be put down. It does get better and easier, I promise. That 7pm fussiness is just a phase. Don't get me wrong, when the kids get older it is still hard work. It is just a Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00867733939934906090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37443842.post-79775605634096124752008-06-07T21:05:00.000-05:002008-06-07T21:05:00.000-05:00I don't have kids, but I think what you're feeling...I don't have kids, but I think what you're feeling is pretty normal...if Turtle is a bit more high-maintenance than most, no wonder you're feeling tired. You need to have that me that...can you arrange with Clark such that you have time to yourself on the weekends at least? Maybe he can handle some of her care-taking routines for part of the time on the weekends, that'll give him time with her SAHWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14817257553602920900noreply@blogger.com